If you do not use the correct amount of assertivenessyou will waste prospects and destroy relationships.

Assert means; the amount of force or effort used to make an opinion known. I'm not simply talking about volume (loudness of speech). You can assert your opinion about your MLM business or product too much with a loud voice or a soft voice and it will cause the prospect to back away from your ideas.

You can assert questions too repetitively and cause your prospect to feel interrogated. You can assert not enough and cause the prospect to feel it's not important.

With the volume of your voice if your prospect can't hear you your communication is worthless. If you talk too loudly so that everyone in the restaurant can also hear you, it's too much assertiveness.

I recall a movie called Bowfinger, where Steve Martin plays a movie director trying to find a person to play a particular part in a movie. The quality he was looking for in the actor was that he or she had to posses it. Throughout the entire movie he would interview potential actors for the role and within a few seconds he would yell, No no no! You don't have it! The actor would exclaim, Tell me what it' is and I'll get it! Yet Steve Martin couldn't actually describe what it was. So he would search for another actor. Finally he interviews a girl and as soon as she begins to talk he exclaims THAT'S IT! SHE HAS IT'! He then could see what it was.

It is (drum roll please) when the individual talks; people want to listen to him or her.

Perhaps the word that best describes it is charisma. The definition of charisma is: a personal quality attributed to people who arouse devotion and enthusiasm.

Of the Ten Communication Qualities I train you on in Professional Inviter, Use the Correct Amount of Assertiveness is the one that really gives you the it.

When you have it, your prospects want what you're offering. People want to be around you. People listen to what you say. If you don't have it, you can use the exact same prospecting scripts as someone who has it, but not have the same success.

So this is a very important quality to have!

With Respect and Admiration,

Tim Sales